Day/Card 21 of 39 … Self-Love …
Self-love is such a challenging concept to grasp. As women, most times we put others before ourselves, at times compromising ourselves to make sure everyone else is taken care of first. It can seem conceited and selfish, but here’s the thing … before we became wives, mothers, co-workers, etc., we were ourselves first. We are always ourselves first, nothing has changed about that except our outlook of putting the needs of everyone else first.
When we constantly give, give, give and take nothing for ourselves, at the end of the day what’s left? When our children see us giving to everyone else first, what are we inevitably teaching them? To forsake themselves? Would you seriously want that for them? What examples are you setting when you allow your health to slide, your mental well-being to take a backseat, or putting your passions on hold?When you deplete yourself and don’t take the time to replenish yourself, are you truly giving them the best of you? No. What they get is someone who is tired, unhappy, cranky, hangry … you get the picture.
When you give to yourself first – taking an hour to exercise, eat well, read the trash novels you enjoy, paint, get a massage, do things that YOU love – you fill yourself up, and your people get a better version of you. You set better examples for your children, especially your daughter. You’re happier, rejuvenated, and you will be better equipped to take on the challenges of your day. Just because you get married and have kids doesn’t mean that you as a person gets put on hold. Men, this includes you also as I know a few of you who are in a similar boat and constantly feel a need to provide for others before yourself!
The “Self-Love” card asks you to take a look at yourself & to begin making your self a priority instead of an after thought! Stop making excuses as to why you can’t! Life flows easier when you’re coming from a place of happiness rather than when your tired, etc. Studies have shown that women (& men) who prioritize themselves are better parents, productive employees, happier individuals in general. Taking 30 minutes to and hour a day is less than 1% of a 24 hour day! You’re NOT neglecting your children by doing this, and there should be no guilt for taking this time for you! Love yourself enough to do this and watch your life expand!